Save your money, Holly. The relationship is doomed. If you spend it on therapy, it should be for you and you alone. I don't know how long you knew your husband before you got married, but it wasn't long enough. And remember, the best time to experiment outside of marriage is when you actually are outside a marriage. (P.S. I knew a couple who spent over $100,000 on individual, couples, and family therapy prior to divorce. They had attorneys fees on top of that. The quickest way to poverty in America is divorce and one of the reasons is because people spend too much on the process. )