I’m not sure your personal experience is a blueprint for everyone, Lisa. Information like this is a loaded gun that your child might turn upon you or themselves. Low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness, feeling unloved and unwanted can be triggers for self harm. Before embarking on any soul bearing, I think it would be a good idea to consult a family therapist. The reason you might say these things and the way in which you say them is going to impact the outcome.