I’m not sure what sort of relationship you’re aiming for, but it’s not a stable, loving, and harmonious one.

First of all, if two people are right for each other, they are eager to make each other happy. If you feel you have to coax loving behavior out of someone, you’re with the wrong person.

Secondly, manipulative strategies intended to alter the nature of a relationship are not things a mature, decent human being would employ. They might work for a while on an insecure, vulnerable person but they won’t result in anything resembling true love and happiness.

Mutual respect is a key element in any successful relationship. The approach you describe is disrespectful in the extreme. I pity the poor fool who tries to follow your horrible advice. Any self-respecting woman would kick his ass to the curb.